LETTING GO OF THE PAST
Letting go of the past can be quite challenging, no doubt. However, the benefits are countless and the opportunities that begin to present themselves seem to multiply as well.
Knowing this, why not let go of the past haunts that simply do not serve well in your current life? Stop focusing on failed relationships, wondering why you have failed in love, again, and start focusing on the positives that can start contributing to more happier outcomes.
Allow yourself to be free of their chains, say good-bye and start moving forward toward a more positive relationship and a happier way to live.
This writing was presented to us from one of our readers, Elle Le Meur. Her thoughts and insight may very well help show you the direction you have been seeking. Check it out and go from there.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller
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FOCUSING ON THE PAST; REPEATING FAILED RELATIONSHIPS
By Elle Le Meur
Have you noticed that you tend to repeat failed relationships? A different name, a new face, but the same issues? I have and lately I have noticed a few things about myself and how I allow this to happen.
I have often used the phrase, “Why was I so blind?” or “You are not listening to me.” After a failed relationship, most of us spend a majority of our newly found free time focusing on the past.
Often, we beat ourselves up about the “who, how and why” of the situation. So much so that instead of focusing on what we want, we wind up spending all of our energy focusing on what we don’t want.
It is often said that history repeats itself. After a broken relationship, I don’t think that anyone wants to repeat what they have already been through. Therefore, we tell ourselves “I am never dating … (fill in the blank) ever again.” You can’t imagine how many times I have told myself that I will never date … again. And yet, I did.
LOST OPPORTUNITY? CLOSED DOORS? NO…NO REGRETS
I was so focused on that closed door and what I didn’t want (the relationship ending and having been a failure, or so I thought), that I was too blind to see the door that had been pushed open for me. Which resulted in me repeating my own history.
Instead of focusing on the closed door and what we don’t want, I suggest a different approach. So, far, this approach has been working for me and I think it should work for you, too.
It is quite simple; you just choose to accept it.
At least the concept is simple. Doing it may be a bit more difficult, I admit. But the rewards begin with the knowledge we gain when we realize why that door was closed in the first place. It was closed for a reason – and until it closes, the next door that is supposed to open…can’t.
When we allow ourselves to accept the closed door (our new situation) then we release ourselves from the past and begin to move forward. When we start focusing on the things that we do want we will be able to see clearly – the open door.
Happiness awaits us all! I encourage you to keep the truly great quote posted at the beginning of this article in mind and allow the words to resonate, thinking back to them when you find yourself looking at what appears to be a closed door.
There is much knowledge to be gained from those words. And even more from the results of having truly embraced the opportunities the closed doors present to us.
If we only allow ourselves to look around and see the open ones. ♥
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